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*Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc., has neither endorsed, nor are they affiliated with, the 'Composition or Distribution' of These Worksheets.
These Step Study Worksheets are only meant to be another tool in helping the alcoholic on there 12 Step Journey, to better understand the Basic and Simple approach to practicing the Steps, as they are ... 'Laid Out In The Basic Text Of The Big Book' of Alcoholics Anonymous, and with the guidance of Step Four In our Twelve Steps And Twelve Traditions book.
"We did exactly the same thing with our lives. We took stock honestly. First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure. Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had defeated us, we considered its common manifestations."
"Resentment is the 'Number One' offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything
else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only
mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. When the spiritual
malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically." (Big Book, Pg. 64)
TO BEGIN STEP FOUR 'FIRST REVIEW' THE FOLLOWING:
1a) "Resentments" - Pgs. 64-67, (Grudge List Pg. 65)
2a) "Fears" - Pgs. 67-68, and 12&12 Pg. 49
3a) "Sex Conduct" & "Harms Done To Others" Pgs. 68-71, and 12&12 Pg. 119
4a) More Guidance, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Book, Step 4: Pgs. 42-54.
1b) Audio: Resentments 'Step 4' mp3 (13 min) listen/burn here
2b) Audio: Fears 'Step 4' mp3 (22 min) listen/burn here
3b) Audio: Sex Conduct 'Step 4' mp3 (26 min) listen/burn here
3c) Audio: Harms Done To Others 'Step 4' mp3 (7 min) listen/burn here
4b) "Assets" - 12 Steps & 12 Traditions Book Pg. 46
"In this book you read again and again that 'Faith' did for us
what we could not do 'For Ourselves'. We hope you are convinced
now that God can remove whatever Self-Will has blocked you off
from Him. If you have already 'Made A Decision', and an Inventory
of your 'Grosser Handicaps', you have made 'A Good Beginning'..."
(Big Book, Pgs. 70-71)
"BEGIN YOUR STEP FOUR 'GROSSER HANDICAPS' INVENTORY"
Step Four in this version has 5 sections. The Big Book contains three sections. From the 12&12 we added a 'assets' section, and from Roger G's website we added a 'our lifes names' section, which my help you later with your Step 8 amends list.
THE FIVE SECTIONS ARE:
SECTION 1: 'Our Life's Names'
"To a degree, he has already done this (list) when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to 'Redouble His Efforts' to see how many people he has hurt, and in what ways."
Because both the 12&12 and the Big Book state that the Step 8 list begins with Step 4,
Thoroughness is enhanced with this extra measure from the start.
Is a Master Index which may be added in response to a Step
8 (12&12 Pg.77) sentence
about an Amends List;
Column 2: The Cause
What happened? Be specific as to why you are angry.
Column 3: Affects My
How did it make you feel? Specifically, how did it effect *"The Seven Parts Of Self?"
Column 4: Where Was I To Blame?
Please read through the second paragraph in Big Book, Pg.67 before answering;
What is the truth here? Where was my responsibility in this relationship? What might I
have done instead? Where was I at fault?
*Pride: How do I think others view me?
*Emotional Security: Our general sense of personal well being.
*Material Security: Our basic desire fo money, property, possesions, etc.
*Ambitions: Our goals plans and designs for the future.
*Personal Relations: Our relations with other people.
*Sex Relations: Our basic drives for sexual intimacy and gratification.
"If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for
If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself
Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, ...
Even when you don't really want it for them and your prayers are only words
Do it Everyday For TWO WEEKS, and you will find you have come to mean it
*View/Print 'Resentment Inventory Prompt Sheet: link here
the person or thing you resent, ...
You Will Be Free.
to be given to them, ...
You Will Be Free.
and You Will Be Free.
and you don't mean it, ...
go ahead and Do It Anyway.
and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel
bitterness and resentment and hatred,
you now feel Compassionate Understanding And Love." ... (Big Book, Pg.552)
*View/Print 'Resentments' Worksheet: link here
1) What specifically, were we afraid of?
2) Why did we have them?
3) When, where and how did the general nature of this recurring fear begin?
4) Wasn't it because self reliance failed us?
5) Is this a rational fear?
Consider the general natures of recurring fears from the previous sections. We add known
fears which did not relate to resentments.
As we write the Fears on our worksheet, it is suggested we review the "Fear Prayer."
(Big Book, Pg.68)
1) Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?
2) Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness?
3) Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead?
4) We subjected each relation to this test -was it selfish or not?
5) Was compatibility at the spiritual level a fact and not wishful thinking?
.... "the newcomer has some 'assets' which can be noted along with his liabilities. This
tends to clear away morbidity and encourage balance. As soon as he begins to be more
objective, the newcomer can fearlessly, rather than fearfully, look at his own defects."
This assessment of our material and emotional aspects of our life is similar to the
various inventorys described in the 12&12 in Step 10.
"This brings us to the Fifth Step in the program of recovery.
"When we decide who is to hear our story, 'We Waste No Time'. We have a written inventory and we are prepared for a long talk." (Big Book, Pg. 75)
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