STEP FOUR WORKSHEETS

*Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc., has neither endorsed, nor are they affiliated with, the 'Composition or Distribution' of These Worksheets.

These Step Study Worksheets are only meant to be another tool in helping the alcoholic on there 12 Step Journey, to better understand the Basic and Simple approach to practicing the Steps, as they are ... 'Laid Out In The Basic Text Of The Big Book' of Alcoholics Anonymous, and with the guidance of Step Four In our Twelve Steps And Twelve Traditions book.


"Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. This was Step Four. A business which takes no regular inventory usually goes broke."

"We did exactly the same thing with our lives. We took stock honestly. First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure. Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had defeated us, we considered its common manifestations."

"Resentment is the 'Number One' offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically." (Big Book, Pg. 64)


TO BEGIN STEP FOUR 'FIRST REVIEW' THE FOLLOWING:

Alcoholics Anonymous, Big Book, Chapter 5: How It Works,

1a) "Resentments" - Pgs. 64-67, (Grudge List Pg. 65)
1b) Audio: Resentments 'Step 4' mp3 (13 min) listen/burn here

2a) "Fears" - Pgs. 67-68, and 12&12 Pg. 49
2b) Audio: Fears 'Step 4' mp3 (22 min) listen/burn here

3a) "Sex Conduct" & "Harms Done To Others" Pgs. 68-71, and 12&12 Pg. 119
3b) Audio: Sex Conduct 'Step 4' mp3 (26 min) listen/burn here
3c) Audio: Harms Done To Others 'Step 4' mp3 (7 min) listen/burn here

4a) More Guidance, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Book, Step 4: Pgs. 42-54.
4b) "Assets" - 12 Steps & 12 Traditions Book Pg. 46

It Is 'STRONGLY' Suggested You 'Read And Listen' To The Above 'SEVERAL' Times 'BEFORE' Continuing This Process...




STEP 4: "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."

*A suggested 'Thought' to remember for Step 4 - "HONESTY."

"In this book you read again and again that 'Faith' did for us what we could not do 'For Ourselves'. We hope you are convinced now that God can remove whatever Self-Will has blocked you off from Him. If you have already 'Made A Decision', and an Inventory of your 'Grosser Handicaps', you have made 'A Good Beginning'..."
(Big Book, Pgs. 70-71)

KEEP IT SIMPLE ..... BUT BE THOROUGH!!!

"BEGIN YOUR STEP FOUR 'GROSSER HANDICAPS' INVENTORY"

*Note: All 'Worksheets' are formated to Print on 8 1/2 X 11 paper, but you 'MUST' Remove the Time, Date and the Page URL. On your Printer Link, choose 'Print Preview' or the page Will-Not print out properly. Print 'multiple copies' of worksheet charts, as needed.

* Print 'ALL FIVE', Step 4 Worksheet Section CHARTS, On One Page: Link Here

Step Four in this version has 5 sections. The Big Book contains three sections. From the 12&12 we added a 'assets' section, and from Roger G's website we added a 'our lifes names' section, which my help you later with your Step 8 amends list.


THE FIVE SECTIONS ARE:

Our Life's Names - Resentments - Fears -
Sex Conduct and Harms Done To Others - Assets.

SECTION 1: 'Our Life's Names'
Is a Master Index which may be added in response to a Step 8 (12&12 Pg.77) sentence about an Amends List;

"To a degree, he has already done this (list) when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to 'Redouble His Efforts' to see how many people he has hurt, and in what ways."

Because both the 12&12 and the Big Book state that the Step 8 list begins with Step 4, Thoroughness is enhanced with this extra measure from the start.

*View/Print 'Our Life's Names' Worksheet: link here



SECTION 2: 'Resentments'
"This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, "This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done." (Big Book, Pgs. 66-67)


Resentment Worksheet Definitions:

Column 1: Resentments
List all the persons, places, things, institutions, ideas and principles with which you are angry, resentful, feel hurt or threatened.

Column 2: The Cause
What happened? Be specific as to why you are angry.

Column 3: Affects My
How did it make you feel? Specifically, how did it effect *"The Seven Parts Of Self?"

Column 4: Where Was I To Blame?
Please read through the second paragraph in Big Book, Pg.67 before answering;
What is the truth here? Where was my responsibility in this relationship? What might I have done instead? Where was I at fault?


*'The Seven Parts Of Self'--- Defined

*Self Esteem: How do I think of myself?

*Pride: How do I think others view me?

*Emotional Security: Our general sense of personal well being.

*Material Security: Our basic desire fo money, property, possesions, etc.

*Ambitions: Our goals plans and designs for the future.

*Personal Relations: Our relations with other people.

*Sex Relations: Our basic drives for sexual intimacy and gratification.


From Resentments stem all forms of Spiritual Disease, for we have been not only
Mentally and Physically ill, ... we have been "SPIRITUALLY SICK."

A SOLUTION

"If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for
the person or thing you resent, ...
You Will Be Free.

If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself
to be given to them, ...
You Will Be Free.

Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, ...
and You Will Be Free.

Even when you don't really want it for them and your prayers are only words
and you don't mean it, ...
go ahead and Do It Anyway.

Do it Everyday For TWO WEEKS, and you will find you have come to mean it
and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel
bitterness and resentment and hatred,
you now feel Compassionate Understanding And Love." ... (Big Book, Pg.552)

*View/Print 'Resentment Inventory Prompt Sheet: link here
*View/Print 'Resentments' Worksheet: link here



SECTION 3: 'Fears'
"We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We put them on paper, even though we had no resentment in connection with them. We asked ourselves why we had them. Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us?" (Big Book, Pg.68)

Thoughts about Fears from the Big Book, Page 67;

1) What specifically, were we afraid of?

2) Why did we have them?

3) When, where and how did the general nature of this recurring fear begin?

4) Wasn't it because self reliance failed us?

5) Is this a rational fear?

Consider the general natures of recurring fears from the previous sections. We add known fears which did not relate to resentments.

As we write the Fears on our worksheet, it is suggested we review the "Fear Prayer."
(Big Book, Pg.68)

*View/Print 'Fears' Inventory Prompt Sheet: link here
*View/Print 'Fears' Worksheet: link here



SECTION 4: 'Sex Conduct' and 'Harms Done To Others'
"Many of us needed an overhauling there. But above all, we tried to be sensible on this question. It's so easy to get way off the track. Here we find human opinions running to extremes--" (Big Book, Pg.68)


Thoughts about Sex and Harming Others from the Big Book;

Consider questions in the Big Book on pages 68-70, and the 12&12 page 119 for each episode.

1) Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?

2) Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness?

3) Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead?

4) We subjected each relation to this test -was it selfish or not?

5) Was compatibility at the spiritual level a fact and not wishful thinking?

*View/Print 'Sex Conduct' Worksheet: link here
*View/Print 'Harms Done To Others' Worksheet: link here



SECTION 5: 'Our Assets'
This section is not clearly detailed in AA literature except for the following quote found in the 12&12 on page 46.

.... "the newcomer has some 'assets' which can be noted along with his liabilities. This tends to clear away morbidity and encourage balance. As soon as he begins to be more objective, the newcomer can fearlessly, rather than fearfully, look at his own defects."



This assessment of our material and emotional aspects of our life is similar to the various inventorys described in the 12&12 in Step 10.

*View/Print 'Our Assets' Worksheet: link here


"This brings us to the Fifth Step in the program of recovery.


This is perhaps difficult - especially discussing our defects with another person. We think we have done well enough in admitting these things to ourselves. There is 'Doubt' about that. In actual practice, we usually find a 'Solitary Self-Appraisal Insufficient'. Many of us thought it necessary to go much further. We will be more reconciled to discussing ourselves with 'Another Person' when we see good reasons why we should do so. The best reason first: If we 'Skip This Vital Step', we may not 'Overcome Drinking'." (Big Book, Pg. 72)

"When we decide who is to hear our story, 'We Waste No Time'. We have a written inventory and we are prepared for a long talk." (Big Book, Pg. 75)

Complete the short 5th Step Worksheet 'Now' ...
and then Call Your Sponsor ... To Hear Your 5th Step
"We Waste No Time" !!!

"REMEMBER"...
THERE IS A SOLUTION,
THE SOLUTION IS SIMPLE,
THE SOLUTION IS . . . 'SPIRITUAL'!!!

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