I have three cats and enough cat hair in the house to make a fourth. Phelicity is the champ when it comes to fur. She's the champ at just about everything. She's also the youngest and the littlest, the Phurbaby of the house, a situation that is probably not going to change. She doesn't like that. But she deals with her wicked stepsisters....er, her sweet elderly Auntie cats admirably, because she has more tenacity than anyone in the house.

Phelicity's name is spelled with a "Ph" because she's a pedigreed Bluepoint Birman, and the year she was born, 1992, was the "P" year for naming show Birmans. One of my nicknames for her is Phlipity Phluph. It just evolved. Not that I don't respect her royal lineage or would forget for a moment that she is a True Princess. She'd never let me. I think as she gets older, she becomes more impatient to be given her royal birthright of Queen. She doesn't let BamBam ("the Boss") intimidate her any more, and she is just as good now at Mewsette's games of oneupsmanship as Mewsette ("the Queen") herself. But while they live, Phelicity will be the Heiress Apparent, and she recognizes that as less than her due. I feel like England in the days of Elizabeth and Mary, the rival Queens.

When I call her the Champ, I mean it. She is the furball champ of the house, to begin with. Have you ever watched a poor little longhaired cat grooming her ruff? The little tongue goes down the fur, the little neck stretches out to the max, and they run out of tongue and neck before they run out of fur. My poor baby sits there with a flash of utter frustration on her little face at each stroke, with a half inch of fur left at the end, but she continues bravely on, busily creating another furball to decorate the carpet with tomorrow.

She is also expert at the "Birman huff", a genteel little puff of exasperation when she's being fussed over too much. We brush, we comb, we clean eyes, we clean ears, we do what we reasonably can to keep little gums healthy; and she sits there, patient and sweet like a good former show cat should, going "huff, huff", like little sighs. Then, depending on how many times I kiss the top of her head, she settles down and tolerates me or disappears at the first available moment.

It's not easy being a Princess.

Phelicity doesn't like to be cuddled much unless she's really in the mood, and strictly on her terms. This is my fault - the four of us having established long ago that everything wrong around here is my fault - because I cuddled her unmercifully in her first year, lavishing so much adoration on her that now she looks upon me as the Cuddle Monster. I should have paid attention as the hint of reproach in her eyes grew more frequent in the prime of her Mature Cathood. I try hard not to scoop her up and baby her, disrupting her serene, mature reflections on Life, catkind and the spot on the wall.

She rewards me for my valiant efforts by calling me imperiously when she does want me, sleeping on me every night when she's through walking around on me, and keeping me company when I take a bath. I believe her favorite part of me is one dry arm entended from a tub of bubbles to rub her head and keep her from falling in when she gets too enthusiastic. She loves the bathtub.

Her major accomplishments are in the field of communications. Never could a tiny cat make her royal wishes and commands as obvious as this one can. The sudden, plaintive wail from the bathtub (she knows it echos), uttering her clarion call at the top of her lungs of "Moww!", her unique combination of "Mom" and "now!" will bring me running.

Her patient stance, when she's being her usual patient little self, in the bedroom doorway, waiting for me to notice that she wants me, is just as effective. That's when she needs an extended session of loving and petting, and wants to do her swish-and-bump dance. I must kneel down with one knee at the appropriate height for her to head-bump, as she swishes back and forth between me, the chair leg, and whatever else is handy, bumping and rubbing her head happily on all and pausing to let me run my hand down her back and tail in between bumps - not once, not 3 times, but exactly twice. She dearly loves this little routine she created, and so do I. I've never seen any other cat do anything like it. In fact, I'm never sure if she's being particularly loving at these times or just wants to scratch her head on me, but she will eventually flop on her side for the finale of lots of petting by me and happy purring by her.

Sometimes she prefers to use the bed for this routine, and she'll let me know by pointedly looking at the bed, back to me, back to the bed. I better have lumbered myself up from the floor and got there by the time she jumps up, because she's dancing and ready to bump.

One of her major achievements was learning to use the answering machine. I don't have one any more; I know when I'm licked. Several years ago when she was 3 or 4, she became fascinated with the answering machine, which was sitting on a low table in the living room. That was my sister's fault, to begin with. She would call me during the day while I was at work to leave a message, and end it by saying hello to Phelicity by name. I had told her how Phelicity would jump up to hear the message.

Well, she so loved to hear her name on those messages, it wasn't long before she learned to paw the "Play" button so she could hear it again. I'm not kidding. I had had no messages for days when I actually saw her do it one evening. Sure enough, the message I heard was from my sister; several days old and one I'd never heard. She asked me to call her when I could and then said "Hello, Phelicity." Phelicity was playing my messages so she could hear her name. I'll never know how much she did it; I just think that tape wore out awfully fast. I left it there for some time because I was so enchanted with her great gifts, but there were never any messages on it that I could tell again, and my sister gave up. Eventually people quit asking me if I got their message. They didn't believe what I told them anyway.

And she talks a lot. Phelicity possesses neither resigned recognition of my inadequacies (ala BamBam) or frantic insistence upon my comprehension (ala Mewsette). She simply expects me to know what she's saying. It never crossed her mind that I wouldn't. So she had been confidently making baby sounds and then forming little words since she was about a year old. I used to go "Awww.." and write them all down, sort of like we humans do with our first child. So I had pages of her Ngings and Nyangs and occasional Mowengenggs, and was pretty sure she favored far Eastern dialects due to the old far Eastern origins of the Birman breed.

"Ngink", she would say, or "Ngungig" when she was serious. "Ging ngyang" she would sing happily as she jumped into the middle of the needlework in my lap. "Geek?" or "Nyuck" gave me her opinions of her dinner, and "Ngyow" meant that, whatever she wanted, she wanted it now. Between her language, Mewsette's constant verbal barrage, and BamBam throwing loud, disgusted looks at both of them, we were like the Tower of Babel.

Then came the day I realized she had learned to speak English.

One morning on the mountain, where we had a screened back porch which was her much-loved cinema of wildlife, Phelicity came and told me simply and clearly that she wanted to go out.

"Nana," she said (her preferred name for me), "Wanna g'owwt."
"What, sweetheart?" I asked absentmindedly.
"Wanna g'owwt!" she insistently repeated.
"In a minute, baby," I told her.
"Naow!" she said.

I stared at her, so thunderstruck that she added softly, "n-n-naow?" Of course I let her out on the porch immediately.

"Ngan Ngou", she said sweetly. She'd been saying thank you for a long time - she's very polite - and I always say "you're welcome". I'm very well trained.

For days I could hardly believe what had happened. My tape recorder stood ready at the back door, but she didn't repeat the performance. I was so proud of her but it was too wonderful and unbelievable; I didn't dare tell anybody, for fear of getting locked up in a mental ward. It did happen. It hasn't happened again, possibly only because I now anticipate her desires so well it isn't necessary.

I don't know if any other Birmans can speak English, but mine can.

Of course, when I call her mine, I'm speaking in inferior human terms. Phelicity knows better. She knows it is I who belong to her. Cats come to us on their terms, and they maintain control. They may love us very much, but they are never our possessions or our playthings. A cat will never, ever be subject to our will. This explains why we who love them are subject to theirs.




written out of love by Phelicity's mom.

©2000 by Sharon Goodman
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